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Confessions of a Newlywed

In friendship, inspiration, love, marriage on September 17, 2013 at 11:31 pm

When my husband asked my dad for his permission to marry me, my dad told him, “Alex, Marriage is one of the hardest things you’ll ever do and it is one of the most rewarding things you’ll ever experience.”

He was SO right. I wanted to share this thought because I think people have a misconception that when you get married everything will be PERFECT. Let’s be honest, you see instagrams of newlywed couples gushing about how much they love their spouse and their newlywed activities and adorable matching shirts (guilty) – but you don’t hear about the growing pains, adjustments and tough compromises that have to be made in the first well, forever.

For all of my friends who are married, getting married, and will be married I need you to remember that even when things are hard, if you’re BOTH willing to work together, compromise and be understanding of the other person’s feelings then the reward is immense. The trials will come and that’s okay, embrace them – use them to better yourself, to better each other and as a means to love even more fiercely than the day before.

It’s overcoming these trials that will make the two of you even closer, a stronger team, an unstoppable force.  If I may, I’d like to impart a few of the lessons I’m learning along the way and as I feel inspired I will continue to add to this post.

As long as the end goal is the same it doesn’t matter how you get there.I think the biggest struggle for me has been not doing things my way. It sounds ridiculously childish but all of a sudden there is this other person with an equally strong opinion on how  something should be done and wholeheartedly believes his way is the right way. That’s hard!

Our first few weeks of marriage we spent going head to head on everything! Take for example a furniture shopping trip we went on about a couple of weeks after we moved into our apartment. The night before I’d found a great print chair in Homegoods, snatched it up and brought it home. Husband loved it and we were planning to keep it until the next day when we found two gorgeous matching wing backs for a steal in TJ Maxx. Husband says, “Yep let’s get these but I want to return the other chair today.” I say, “yeah, I’ll return it sometime next week, what does it matter?” But it mattered to him – for his peace of mind he wanted it returned that day.  Naturally we begin to go back and forth when it hit me – we both want the same thing we’re just going about it in two different ways.  So I conceded.  And it hurt. And I cried. Then it felt good – because I realized that I just tapped into something that is going to save us a lot of heartache and strife in the future:  If we are both seeking the same outcome, be okay with doing it his way. We returned the other chair that night and you know what he did? He thanked me.  He hugged me and said in the sweetest voice, ‘thank you for that’.

“A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.” – Proverbs

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Contrary to what I believed, compromise or putting somebody’s feelings before yours does not equal weakness, defeat, or inferiority – it’s actually this beautiful, beautiful thing that brings you and your somebody closer and makes you fall in love again, and again and again.

xo – JP

String Lights and Summer Nights

In fashion, friendship, Good Eats, Los Angeles, love, mr. and mrs. pooch, music on August 24, 2013 at 1:44 am

Recently I was going through old blog posts and remembered how I used to share photos of things that made me happy, inspired me or just good moments. So I’m thinking I’ll do that again today in hopes that a few of these will make you smile as well.

Finally buying THAT pair of shoes I’ve been wanting for forever. These add just enough spunk to my wardrobe.

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Seeing my husband on the big screen! My heart skipped a beat the first time I bought a ticket to see my husband in his first film. I’m a little biased but he did great and the movie was hilarious. You can download it on iTunes!

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Having my husband’s parents over for dinner and uno at our new place for the first time – incredible! We ordered pizza from their favorite pizzeria, Lamonica’s and enjoyed a summer evening out on our semi-furnished balcony.

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The first time we saw the stringed lights on over the balcony. Few things in the world give me happiness like great ambiance. I even covered my eyes for the ‘big reveal’ – I love it out there.

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Getting our wedding photos back and realizing how blessed we were to have found the photographer we had. Nicole at Sorella-Muse Photography completely captured the essence of our day. She is nothing short of amazing and I’m so happy we found her and have her in our lives.

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Figuring out how ridiculously simple it is to use our crock pot and then spending an entire Saturday eating homemade teriyaki wings and watching season two of Friday Night Lights.

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Seeing my absolute favorite twosome Johnnyswim  (think Johnny and June Cash meet Marvin Gaye and Tammi Terrell) and the brilliant Emeli Sande (get her album, you’ll put it on repeat) with hilarious girlfriends. I was blown away by the sheer talent these two artists displayed. No gimmicks – just a love for what they do.

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That’s plenty for now!

xx – jess